decide or bleed?
That thing you've been "thinking about" for weeks? It's quietly draining your energy, focus, and money every single day you don't decide.
This morning at 6:45am, I woke up with this feeling in my gut.
That decision I'd been circling for a month about the new job?
I was just going to make it.
Today.
No more pros and cons lists. No more "what ifs."
By 7:15am, I had sent the email accepting the role.
And then the craziest thing happened.
Instead of feeling drained or anxious like I expected, this massive surge of energy hit me.
I ended up working for 12 straight hours, planning my birthday, sending emails, building offerings while also walking the city, absorbing the music on the streets.
I was so in the zone that a friend texted to hang out and I actually replied, "No, I'm working."
(Those who know me understand how rare this is - I'm usually the first to drop everything for connection).
Here's what struck me today:
The real cost of delayed decisions isn't making the "wrong" choice. It's the energy you burn while not deciding.
For two months, I've been circling this job decision, creating this emotional roller coaster that served absolutely nothing.
Two months of brain cycles I could have spent building, creating, contributing.
And the moment I finally decided? Instant clarity. Instant energy. Instant momentum.
I've realized most of us have this entirely backward.
We think we're being "thoughtful" or "strategic" by delaying decisions, but we're actually just bleeding energy every single day.
Decision paralysis isn't caution - it's a luxury tax on your life.
Think about it - how many decisions are you currently sitting on?
That conversation you need to have
That project you should either commit to or abandon
That relationship you know deep down isn't working
(And let's be honest - for 90% of these decisions, you already know what you need to do. You're just avoiding the short-term discomfort of committing.)
The truth is that indecision costs equal, if not more than wrong decisions.
Wrong decisions give you data, learning, and a new direction. Indecision just gives you the same day over and over again.
I saw this play out in real time today. The moment I committed, everything changed. I had one of those rare "happily exhausted" days where every hour felt purposeful. As Alex Hormozi once said, "At the end of the day, you should feel so happy and exhausted that you have earned a good day."
That's not possible without decisive action.
So here's my challenge to you: What decision have you been avoiding that, deep down, you already know the answer to?
Make it.
Today.
Not tomorrow.
Not after "more research."
The energy you'll reclaim will astound you.
With all my love,
Khuyen
P.S. This realization about decisions and energy is so critical that I've decided to host a special birthday weekend workshop: "The Hell Yes Decision Tools" next Saturday, May 10th.
We'll work on understanding what blocks your decisive action and how to take them out to make clear, energizing choices.
It's pay-what-you-wish (yes, even free if needed) before this Sunday (my weekend birthday!), because I want to gift this to anyone who's feeling stuck. Reply to this email with "DECISION" if you're interested, and I'll send you the details. Would love to have you there.
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